Comments on: Valentine's Day

By: 2011 « Adam Luke

2011 « Adam Luke — Sun, 30 Jan 2011 04:23:46 +0000

[...] Shared thoughts about “love” and relationships (two things I know nothing about) on Valentine’s Day. [...]

By: Running « Etherised Patient

Running « Etherised Patient — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 10:21:10 +0000

[...] the comments on my Valentine’s Day entry were really fascinating reads, and I appreciate the effort you guys put into them! Just in case it [...]

By: Alyssa

Alyssa — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 07:45:13 +0000

My boyfriend and I were best friends before we started dating, and I couldn’t imagine it any other way. We’re perfectly comfortable with spending some time away from each other, and we never went through a mushy can’t-keep-our-hands-off-each-other stage. I think our relationship is healthier because of that. There wasn’t much novelty to being together. It just seemed natural. And now I still consider him my best friend first and boyfriend second.

My family has always been very tight-knit and close. Of course, they have their moments when they get on my nerves and we’ve had our disagreements, but at the end of the day I’d do anything for them. I fully realize how lucky I am in that respect.

By: Julie

Julie — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 21:33:45 +0000

Ahh, love. I’m so in love, so I can’t really imagine how it feels to not be in love. Your post about feelings immediately reminded me of Dexter from ShowTime, though (on a side note). I can say, however, that once you get over that little speed-bump of no love, you will be so excited for the feelings. :)

I agree with you on family, though. The majority of my nuclear family are people that I would not associate myself with if I was not forced too. Does it make me a bad person, maybe. But I think they all just need to grow up a little.

By: Lucy

Lucy — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 11:31:25 +0000

I found this post ridiculously interesting. You don’t really share a lot of your really personal thoughts often on LiveJournal, so it was really quite good reading!

Personally, I think you’re pretty lucky to have not bee in a relationship. They’re essentially meaningless, and it’s the most awful thing to learn. Relationships are a big waste of time. True friendships are of far more worth if you can find them, because it’s relationships that ruin strong friendships like the one you share with your best friend. And nothing – especially not ‘love’ – is worth screwing that up.

By: Jen

Jen — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 22:42:32 +0000

I’m an emotional retard too. Or maybe I just don’t act on my emotions, and instead like to think things over before I do them. Emotions complicate things! :(

People have assumed a close friend and I were dating, and then my best friend and I were dating (we weren’t at that time, and not for many months afterward). I’m with you — best friends get you, they know (and am obviously) comfortable with the fact that you don’t need to see or be with them all the damn time, but know that you still care.

By: Manda

Manda — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 20:14:38 +0000

I LOVE (500) Days of Summer. It might possibly be my favorite movie ever :D

I’m a huge believer in love but I think the portrayal of love in society and media has become more and more unrealistic, which skewers personal experience with love.

I love my family. I was brought up to believe that family is the #1 unit in my life and I wouldn’t trade that for the world. No one understands me like family and no one will support me like the way my family does :) I’m really lucky in that respect as I know not everyone agrees with those statements!

By: Kaylee

Kaylee — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 19:01:03 +0000

(500) Days of Summer is definitely on my to-watch list. I *think* I’ve experienced (romantic-ish) love before, and it wasn’t that great, so I’m not in a huge hurry to go through that again.

Family – I love them, but I don’t always like them!

By: Jess

Jess — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 15:51:20 +0000

I probably don’t broadcast my emotions to other people very often — I laugh in others’ presence but I usually wouldn’t cry or get angry or even jump around in jubilation. I do have a huge amount of empathy for people though, even if I don’t always act on it. My unit 3 Geography teacher, for instance, was extremely arrogant and I couldn’t stand his teaching, but when he announced he’d lost his job, I felt awful for him because he was clearly upset. (So upset that he’d been a dick to us for most of that class. It didn’t stop me sympathising, although I didn’t say anything to him because he KNEW I hated his teaching style and I didn’t want to APPEAR dishonest, even when I wouldn’t have been.)

And I’ve never been in a relationship either, although I’m only 17. I’m not really bothered by that, even though it was definitely uncommon for my year level. I figure it’s more important to be in a good relationship than to try to get into one as fast as one can. When it happens, it’ll happen, to borrow a cliché!

By: Caity

Caity — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 15:23:14 +0000

Thank you for stopping by my blog!

I always appreciate other people’s thoughts about love and relationships. Everyone views them differently and it’s always interesting to see other people’s takes on them. I can completely understand how you feel about families. I am very close with my family but I know that I am very fortunate. Also, there are always times that they drive me crazy and it wasn’t until I moved out that we truly got along. I have a lot of friends who aren’t, too. I never understood this crazy, intense assumption that everyone in a family has to love each other and always put each other first for everything. Sometimes it just doesn’t work that way. You can pick your friends but you can’t pick your family.

I also don’t think it’s strange that you never have been in a relationship. I was 18 before I had my first relationship and I don’t think there is anything wrong with that either although some people often sound surprised. Oh well. They just don’t realize there are plenty of people who just aren’t in the dating scene for various reasons.